A little about us

My husband and I have spent over 8,400 days in our flips.  We just celebrated 23 years of marriage!  What a blessing it has been!  We spent the first ten years doing what we wanted and BK answered God’s calling and was a professional contemporary Christian musician. But we always wanted children so the decision was made that he would come off the road and take a job in a church as a youth minister.

On the day before our 10^th anniversary we received THE call that we had been selected to be Micah’s parents – what a glorious day that was!!!  So many tears of joy and happiness.  He is a great kid who has been blessed with great talents.  We are so excited to see where God leads him and we thank Him each and every day for allowing us this opportunity to raise this wonderful young man.

We decided we would adopt again.  It didn’t go as smooth the second time but our second blessing soon found us!  After two birth mothers changing their minds, we received a call on a Friday informing us that our precious baby boy was waiting for us.  More tears of joy and happiness.

We spent the first couple of years adjusting to being a family of four.  It’s surprising how another child alters everything J Caleb was a joyful, quick to smile baby.  As he grew we would say that he lived life “intensely large”.  We had no idea how profound that comment was.

Turns out our youngest has some pretty serious neurological issues that continue to show themselves in different ways.  He has been to two occupational therapists, two neurologists, two neuro-psychologists, three psychiatrists - not to mention a hematologist, geneticist and cardiologist.  Those last specialists were because of side effects of medications.

Mood Disorder (NOS)
Unspecified Disturbance of Conduct
ADHD
Sensory Integration Disorder
Sleep Disorder
Some sort of anxiety issue w/ OCD (we think)

The journey has been strenuous to say the least.  "Don't let anyone tell you it's ADHD."  "He just needs to get more sleep." "Some of his facial features could indicate in-utro abuse." "At some point you should think about bipolar disorder."

The medicines....the side affects....the pain and agony of having to make the decision to place your precious young son on intense medications.  But to not do it would mean a continuation of the same out of control chaos we were living everyday.  And he wasn't even four years old at that time.  He has tried 15 different medicines with limited effectiveness.  Or worse yet - the side effects are opposite of what is expected or cause the WBC count to drop or his heart to race too much.  Aaahhh!  I can't stand it!!!

We know the good Lord intended him to be our baby and we thank Him everyday!!!